Understanding Life After 25 Years

After being in this earth for 25 years I can now testify that the term ‘quarter life crisis’ is indeed real. I am at this point in my life wherein I start to plan and look forward to buying a home, purchasing an insurance policy, planning my family, questioning my career path and overall asking myself if I am in the right track. Quarter life crisis is a time when you realise that you are now an adult and whatever you decide to do now will be a platform of where you will be heading. But what if like me, you want to do so many things that you do not even know where to begin with? Well, after a year of asking myself and reading inspirational articles, I’ve become at peace with myself and my crisis.

I’ve narrowed a simple solution to avoid or conquer quarter life crisis down to these two rules:

Rule no. 1 – Stop comparing yourself to others.

Pretty simple right? It’s such a basic rule but is often neglected. Actually, it is the root of all your life questions, e.g. you see your friend buy a car and you ask yourself how he’s able to pay for it. Going to the office every single day, I saw my co-workers starting to acquire new gadgets and upgrade their lifestyle, but as for me I chose to still live just based on my necessities. It did make me happy when I upgraded my phone, but the happiness only lasted for a month and faded after realizing that I would be paying for it the next two years. Remind yourself everyday that each of us has a different story to tell, you are the star of your own novel and you are your very own author. Live a life you want, and do not base it on another person’s story.

Rule no. 2 – Write everything down.

With all the hustle and bustle you go through every day, there are a million thoughts that run through your head. You create your bucket list, your house decorating ideas, big decisions such purchasing car insurance or protection policies, and even the tiny details such as what to wear the next day. Instead of constantly forgetting an idea, keep it recorded. Keeping a journal relieves your mind and body from all those running thoughts. Write everything down, and by the end of the week read every single entry you have written as you will be surprised with how easy some of them are and that you can actually accomplish them if you put your mind on it. When you think about it, some issues may sound so big, but when you actually start to write and formulate solutions, life becomes easier.

Enjoy these fruitful years and do not pressure yourself with the thought of catching up with how rich and stable your friends are. Your bank statement is not the key to achieve happiness. Happiness is achieved by being at peace with yourself; remember that you are the author of your life, and only you have the power to achieve the dreams and goals you set for yourself.